The Secret Sauce
If you think you’re alone in feeling like you don’t have a handle on it all, you’re wrong! We ALL struggle.
There is this pressure to have your children:
A) eating healthy, well-balanced meals
B) sleeping well
C) using their imagination and playing without screens
D) dressed cool
E) know how to share
F) excel in some sort of extra curricular
I can go on and on. On top of all that, you are also expected to be put together and act like you have it all under control and you’re not hanging on by a thread. You’re supposed to eat healthy and cut out sugar and exercise and get enough sleep and NOT YELL at your children when they drive you crazy.
You are your kids feeder, dresser, social calendar maker, extra curricular signer upper, driver, motivator, life example, emotional supporter, AND you’re supposed to do all those things separately for each child. Somehow you’re meant to be in multiple places at once, successfully, give emotional and physical attention equally, and somewhere in there shower, feed yourself, exercise, work, and sleep? Is there time?
Parenting gods can you hear us? What’s the secret sauce?
Then I see a post by @scarymommy:
“Wipe your kids’ tears when they’re sad.
Smile with them when they are happy.
Hold them close when they are scared.
And let them see your tears, smiles and fears too.
This is how you teach them to be a good human in this world.”
That’s the secret sauce. It’s not about if your kids eat sugar or only organic sugar free. If you schedule and sleep train or if you go with the flow. If you push them to do extra curricular or not. None of that matters or should matter to anyone else.
If you love them unconditionally and you model self-respect and respecting others you are doing great.
Everything else, try the ones that resonate with you, don’t beat yourself up for the things you wanted to do but couldn’t achieve. Put in your best effort and enjoy the moments because it goes so fast, you blink and years go by.